How to Train Your Man

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How to Train Your Man

This guy has a take on relationships and love which reminds me of doggy training.

Not sure that the two sets of skills should be transferable but it seems T Dub is into rewarding good behavior. He believes that we actually train people to treat us as they do – good or bad. MMM.

Not sure I agree with that entirely but I may be splitting hairs here. My take on this is that in allowing people to treat us in a certain way we are in effect allowing them to condition themselves into behaving one way or the other. Conditioning is a big thing in human behavior and if you’re not fully au fait with it check out the link below.

Training The Man

In the case discussed above (see video) the woman is in a committed relationship and she says she feels pushed aside and neglected if her guy doesn’t do what he says he will do, like call that night. I’m wondering, how has she made this big mental jump?

Why does she allow her feelings to be hooked to his behavior? Instead of applauding being in this long term, long distance relationship I’d be asking her how she can spend time on her own personal development so that her sense of self doesn’t go up and down with her boyfriend’s behavior.

But that’s another story.

I agree with the stuff about nagging being a no-no but would suggest that when a guy is asked something once and no obvious response or change is forthcoming and then, you ask again and still nothing changes. This may look like nagging from the guys stance but from the woman’s viewpoint this looks like a snub. Same situation; two perspectives.

T Dub suggests treating your man like a knight in shining armor. What do you think? Does that work for you – long term? Is it just a way of manipulating a guy to get what you want or is it a sustainable life plan?

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So, now you have two opinions – mine and what’s in the video – leave your comment below.

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